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The End of Modernity and Individual Transformation

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A few days ago I read a piece by Art Berman, an energy consultant and blogger. It’s trenchant, pessimistic, but clear-eyed piece called “Only Our Children will Cross the River.” I encourage you to read it. I believe it correctly diagnoses the predicament of modern technological society: overshoot, and the current and coming polycrisis we as a species are facing. Undoubtedly, modern human life is in decline. The signs are everywhere, from the rise of authoritarianism to massive, modern superstorms that we have never seen in our lifetimes.

I have no interest in relitigating his piece, but I encourage you to read it. But I’d like to highlight a section of it instead.

“Carl Jung might say that the West is in a mass psychological breakdown. The ego has cut itself off from the unconscious — our species-level memory. We’re trapped in ego-inflation and have lost touch with the soul. Jung wouldn’t recommend a new ideology. He’d tell us to reconnect to the archetypal, the symbolic, and sacred — or the breakdown will get worse.

McGilchrist, Kingsnorth and Hagens are cautiously optimistic that there is a way through the dilemma. I take the Jungian view. We must reverse a deep psychological disorder centuries — maybe millennia — in the making. That won’t happen without the collapse of the “old personality” of civilization, and that’s a psychological crisis that requires careful guidance.

Policy, technology, and information can’t cure a spiritual disorder. Climate change and overshoot are symptoms of Jung’s “psychic shadow.” The root is the belief that we are entitled to dominate nature and exploit the Earth without limit. Most people can’t—or won’t—let go of that belief.

Jung wouldn’t promise success. He’d say it depends on whether a meaningful minority chooses inner transformation over ego, power, and salvation through technology. The odds are low — but not zero. Historically, civilizations have been reborn by small bands who carried the flame through the dark, but it takes time, and we moderns are an impatient crowd…

Real change has always been — and will always be — psychological. People keep asking for a solution. Here it is. The Great Simplification isn’t just a response to breakdown; it’s the way forward. And like all true transformations, it begins from within.

I think Berman’s prescription for the next stage of humanity is the right one. We need to cure the spiritual disorder of modernity. How to do that is another question. As a first principle, I’d like to start with the Buddhist concept of emptiness. To quote a Lion’s Roar piece on the concept:

Emptiness means that all things lack—are empty of—inherent or independent existence. Neither we, other beings, nor any phenomenon in the universe has a permanent, separate, and independent core, soul, or identity. Nothing exists in isolation or on its own—everything is interdependent and exists only in relation to other causes and conditions. This includes physical objects, mental states, and the very concept of self.

At its core, emptiness means this, interbeing. It means that everything is built on the building blocks of the same energy and matter. On a very real level, we are all made of stardust. Nothing we can perceive— or can’t perceive— isn’t us. That we are separate is an illusion.

But most of us are unable to see it except for an occasional fleeting moment. Maybe it was a shroom trip in which you realized you were not separate from the flowing trees dancing and shivering in the wind. Maybe it was a sunset where your thoughts stopped suddenly and just for a moment you had a sense of inner peace and nothing mattered but the moment you were in, the so-called satori moment in Zen. But ultimately consciousness returns to a sort of narcissism that humans are plagued with, that you are the center of the universe and your feelings and thoughts are the most immediate and important. That this narcissism is actually a lie– i.e. you aren’t the center of the universe and there are 8 billion people like you with their own hopes, dreams, thoughts and feelings– is somehow immaterial to most of us.

Everything, however, in our modern culture reinforces this self-centered notion. I live in the East Village on the island of Manhattan, which if you’ve ever been here is a smorgasbord of young, counterculture life (although the tech bro life has invaded it more and more in the last few years). Here one can see the seeds of modern egocentric life, thousands upon thousands of young people with tiny computers in their hands, broadcasting the importance of their lives to the world around them through their social media apps, dressing in either the latest clothes or rebelling against them. Everyone seems to want to be important, to stand out, to be noticed in some way. On any given day, I will see influencers taking pictures in front of the new hot place.

(I’m reminded of Rilke’s Ninth Duino Elegy:

But because being here is much, and because all

that’s here seems to need us, the ephemeral, that

strangely concerns us. We: the most ephemeral. Once,

for each thing, only once. Once, and no more. And we too,

once. Never again. But this

once, to have been, though only once,

to have been an earthly thing – seems irrevocable.)

There is no judgment of this dance, this expression of life and individuality. (The irony of course is that because of the ubiquity of culture, individuality becomes conformist in a way, our culture flattened to a nice tech sheen). But I do wonder how much real peace any of these young people have. I’ve added more and more Gen Z young adults in my therapy practice in recent years, and there’s a common theme in all of them, the general sense of inadequacy they feel.

My sense is that they are spiritually hungry but have no outlet to express their spiritual natures. Everything in our modern world has reinforced the notion that they are special, individual beings that must acquire more and more to feel safe and loved. They must do everything to be their most successful and attractive versions of themselves and if they are not those things, they are doing something wrong. Everything in my therapy practice tries to reverse the flow of this way of being, as I’ve told them all, there is nothing wrong with any of them, they are lovely and worthy of love just as they are. Of course none of them really believe me, and I’m fighting a constant uphill battle. It’s hard to fight the tide of any entire society and way of being.

On one level, I try to reinforce to them that their growth isn’t about acquiring more and more achievements and power and safety until nothing can hurt them, mostly because that is an impossibility. I try to reinforce that their growth is about learning to slow down, let go and reconnect to the world around them, especially the natural world, to reconnect to their bodies and the present moment, to the impermanence and beauty everything around them. .

Healing comes not from adding, but from subtracting, about finding quiet in one’s inner self, about seeing yourself and everyone just as it is without the projections of the self, to accept that we are mortal, we will die, that this life is it, that in the end what we need is calm, quiet and connection.

In my imagined, utopian world, I see a vision of something different than what we have today. I imagine a world where we all had the space and time to look inward, because how few of us do?

What might that look like? Two hours of reading, introspection, and meditation early in the morning. Work comes next whatever that means in this fake society I’ve created. But work that is less alienating than our current form of work, work that is connected to our survival and purpose as biological creatures. It amazes me how divorced everyone is from this. And then time spent with people we love. This is a world not of endless growth but of presence and love and making time for our pain and grief.

I know this will not happen as a society. But I think individual transformation is possible. It takes a long time… I think that’s ok because everything worthwhile is difficult. We all need guides along this journey; a therapist with this perspective would be helpful. If it’s not available to you, then I suggest seeking out the masters of Western and Eastern thought. There are thousands and thousands of profound, beautiful books that can start to change you.

But even if you won’t or can’t do any of that, we can always just slow down, breathe and take in the moment… connecting to the sense that everything is always changing, that this moment is profound and beautiful, and that we can pay attention to this profundity at any time if you’re willing.

Bodhicitta in the Time of Asian Hate

Bodhicitta in the Time of Asian Hate

I recently published my first piece for Tricycle magazine. To be honest, it's been nerve-wracking as hell to have it out in the world! I worked at the San Jose Mercury News right out of college and wrote mostly high school sports stories for a few years, and I remember feeling lots of anxiety when those articles were published. Having this piece out there was a different level of anxiety, mostly because the piece is so naked and vulnerable. It's hard enough to have your heart open, living with a spirit of bodhicitta moment-to-moment, day-to-day. It feels even harder to have your heart this out in the open to thousands of strangers reading your piece.

It is far from a perfect piece of writing. I haven't read the piece since it was published because strangely enough when I read things I have authored, it is hard to even believe it was I who wrote it. Buddhism has a lot to say about anatta or non-self as I've written elsewhere. It's never quite been as clear to me what non-self means in practice as in writing this piece. This piece isn't "me." It speaks to dependent origination, one of the key teachings of the Pali text. The piece was written by some version of my consciousness at a particular moment when I was dealing with certain feelings and fears. And now that moment of consciousness has passed, and the piece is no longer "me."

3 Ways to Face Impermanence, Loss and Death

3 Ways to Face Impermanence, Loss and Death

You will die. That much is certain. It is only a question of when. And between your death and now, you will suffer much loss as well. It may be the end of a relationship or the death of a pet. It may be the loss of a job or something internal and more abstract like the loss of innocence. But it will happen to you just like it happens to everyone. And there is nothing you can do to stop it.

In Buddhism, loss is understood as a part of existence. Impermanence, one of the three marks of Buddhist teaching, is simple enough to understand: everything changes. This presents a problem psychologically for human beings. Human beings crave permanence and security but life is in constant flux. How are we expected to find peace when everything feels precarious and unstable? There are no easy answers here. If there were, people would generally be a lot happier and less anxious. In my experience as a psychotherapist, however, people are a lot more unhappy.

Reflections on God, Death, Meaning and Spirituality

Reflections on God, Death, Meaning and Spirituality

“Do you pray?” I once asked a patient.

“No, I’ve never been able to for some reason” she paused. “Do you?”

“No,” I said. “Because I don’t know if anyone is listening.”

It has always struck me as inconceivable that someone is listening to prayer. How can people be sure of some divine force in their lives? Even such Christian luminaries such as Martin Luther King and Mother Theresa experienced their doubts about God. I am no different. God does not speak to me in tongues or voices. All I hear are silent ellipses where I sense holiness in the mundane, the awe-inspiring in the ordinary. God has always seemed like an inelegant, hollow solution to the problem of meaning and death.

Want to Stay Married? Embrace Change

Want to Stay Married? Embrace Change

This morning I was rereading a wonderful New York Times piece from April called, "To Stay Married, Embrace Change." As a Buddhist, It's a particularly resonate read for me. It reminds me of something Roshi Shunryu Suzuki said when asked to reduce Buddhism down to one phrase, 

"Everything Changes."

As the article points out, to have a successful marriage, we need to realize that we will change but so will our partner. 

Learning to Sacrifice in a Capitalist World: 3 Ways to Consume Less and Push Back Against Greed

Learning to Sacrifice in a Capitalist World: 3 Ways to Consume Less and Push Back Against Greed

Recently I came upon this interesting bible verse,

“If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters-yes, even their own life-such a person cannot be my disciple.”- Luke 14:26

I’m not a bible scholar or even a Christian, but I find this bible verse fascinating. Is Jesus telling us to hate everyone we care about, including ourselves? Somehow, I doubt that’s true. My sense is that this is a metaphor. Jesus is discussing the notion of sacrifice for a greater good (in this case, to follow him and give up their old lives.)

The notion of sacrifice is a strange one in today’s world in that no one seems to want to do it. Capitalism, in particular, encourages us “to get mine.” As one of my favorite Buddhist teachers, Noah Levine, said in a recent podcast, “Greed, Hatred, and Delusion are the norm. It’s compassion that’s in scarcity.”

The Gods Will Not Save You: Reflections on Meaning and Existence

The Gods Will Not Save You: Reflections on Meaning and Existence

“It’s Baltimore, gentlemen. The Gods will not save you.” - Commissioner Ervin Burrell, The Wire

A few years ago, I had to commute from Brooklyn to the Bronx for my job as a social worker at The Legal Aid Society. It was a hellish commute. What should have been a 50 minute to an hour commute, ended up being 75 minutes or longer on most days. (Anyone who lives in New York City can attest to the awfulness of the MTA.)

The only upside to the commute was that I read a lot of books and listened to a lot of interesting podcasts during that time. One morning I was listening to a Zen Buddhist podcast on WZEN. To be honest, I was barely listening. I was tired and a bit hungover. The day had not started yet, and I already wanted it to end.

Everything's Amazing And Nobody's Happy: The First Step Toward Emotional Change

Everything's Amazing And Nobody's Happy: The First Step Toward Emotional Change

Everything's amazing and nobody's happy- Louis C.K.

“To live fully is to live with an awareness of the rumble of terror that underlies everything.” 
― Ernest Becker

A few years ago, a patient of mine wondered out loud why he was unhappy. After all he was a successful lawyer, involved in a loving relationship with a partner, lived in one of the nicer neighborhoods in Brooklyn and had a group of close friends whom he saw socially. So what was wrong? "Something just doesn't feel right. I have the gnawing feeling that something should be different," he said.